Bliss is one of those feelings that when you’re feeling it, you know what it is. Many define it as perfect happiness, joy, pleasure, delight, ecstasy, even euphoria. When was the last time you experienced bliss? It’s definitely not an everyday occurrence. It’s not for many reasons.
One is that when our lives are too complicated, we don’t have the time or presence of mind to expose ourselves to the opportunities that would afford us a blissful experience. Also, if we experienced bliss every day, we wouldn’t recognize it. It would just be same-o, same-o. It’s when we allow ourselves the uncluttered space, both physical and mental, to be truly delighted with what we’re doing.
Sam, the Fisherman
Take Sam, for example, who is a fisherman. He was out deep-sea fishing on a beautiful sunny day. The water was calm and he was having a good time, beer in one hand and a fishing reel in the other. He was out to catch a marlin. Suddenly, he felt a tug on the line. Then there was that indescribable surge of excitement and joy of setting the hook in the fish’s mouth. Of course, that was just the beginning of the emotional roller coaster he was about to experience. First there was that bliss point. He had caught a fish and felt the adrenaline rush.
At that moment, he didn’t know what was on the other end of the line (even though he was hoping for a marlin). Then came the workout of reeling in whatever it was. He could feel a tremendous pull on the line. This one had to be a big one. A little bit of fear set in when he thought he could lose it before it reached the boat. What if the fish was able to extricate itself from the line?
After many minutes of reeling and pulling back on the line, the fish was at the side of the boat. Sam and his crew heaved that sucker over the side of the boat. There lay an 11- foot, 350-pound marlin on the deck. Sam had caught the big one. For a fisherman, he had experienced bliss. Today he wasn’t going to have share any of those “the-one-that-got-away” stories.
Sam’s Bliss Point
Sam would never have experienced his “bliss point” if he had a life that left no time for fishing. If he lived a cluttered life, he would be doing a lot of things that filled his life but never allowed him to reach his bliss point. That’s so true of so many activities we do that use up our time without much return on our investment of time.
Sam managed to find time to fish because he asked “Is it worth it?” to something as mundane as mowing his lawn. By going through the 4-step process shared in the book, Is It Worth It?, he realized that he would rather pay someone else to mow his lawn so that he could have the time to fish and find his bliss point. And, by doing so, he found some balance in his life.